Last Sunday, on a beautiful July morning, I was in my local park enjoying a coffee and watching the world go by. At the next table there was a couple, a man and wife, who looked to be in their mid 30s, and they had their children with them. One of them, a little girl about seven or eight, who had been sitting with her parents enjoying a soft drink said, ‘Daddy, may I go and play on the swings please?’
Her father briefly glanced over at the play area and said, ‘Of course darling, just be careful, I’ll keep an eye on you and you’ll be alright,’ and with this reassurance, she skipped off, carefree, her hair tossing and her arms waving as she went.
I briefly felt a warm memory of how that child must be feeling: secure, safe, loved, protected, cared for. Indeed, in her reticence, born of natural childish vulnerability, she needed these things so she could enjoy her play. That child instinctively recognised the rule and authority of her father in her life, and I mused that this was the truest, sweetest, most innocent example of patriarchy one could possibly imagine.
It is easy to imagine that sweet child growing up secure in her daddy’s love for her; and that his ‘looking out’ for her will continue throughout her life. The relationship will mature and change, yes, but he will always be her father, always just ‘be there’, ever on hand. That will be a given. Even if she has a family of her own, she might still look to her father for his male-oriented advice and wisdom – maybe she will seek a firm view on her own moral decisions – how she treats her own children – maybe she will still call on his strength and support in times of desperate need, remembering the protection he so gently cast over her when she was little. And when he dies, it is easy to imagine that she will feel, as most women do, the deep unassuaged grief at his departure from her life.
Then a cold shiver came over me, and I felt a rising bile, that the exquisite beauty of fatherhood in which this sweet child, and millions like her, was basking is the very thing that feminists make it their life’s work to destroy. Feminism’s war on patriarchy is a war on fatherliness and the normality of family life. In their bitter bigotry, aimed at ‘liberating’ women from the alleged control and influence of men, they are actually engaged in a war on the natural loving authority a father has in the home, and his equally natural instinct to care for his wife and children.
Feminism’s attack on patriarchy is an attack on fathers and what they mean to us. People must understand this. Feminists are trying to ‘liberate’ little girls such as this from their fathers’ rightful, tender, loving care. In their bigotry and hatred, and in the name of false equality for women, these vile, twisted ideologues are seeking to destroy the very thing girls need for their safety, social development, and competent maturity.
It is a fact that a very high proportion of radical feminists, both now and in the past, have had issues with their fathers, and it is clear they are trying to impose their twisted world view on the majority of women who have had a more normal family background. This, of course, is what exposes the truly totalitarian nature of their angry creed.
I make no apology for stating yet again that the word patriarchy means ‘the rule or authority of the father’ – it does not mean just men in general, neither does it mean ‘man-shaped society’. Patriarchy is as natural as motherhood. It is the basis for moral rule in the private household, which, along with the unconditional, nurturing love of the mother, affords children a framework in which they learn to be balanced adults.
Patriarchy is a vital component of the sanguineous family: that central cell, which, for centuries if not millennia, has been the building block of stable society. It has ensured the protection of women and children, the defence of the realm, and the passing on of private family assets to children without the interference of the state.
Patriarchy is not a system designed by men in order to shape society to men’s advantage and subjugate women. It is not a means of forcing women to accept a subservient social role or become a social underclass, always beneath men, always denied equal opportunity, always the discriminated-against victim. Patriarchy is not a system of partisan advantage for men, these are all damnable lies.
Patriarchy is fatherliness borne of fatherhood, that is all. It has allowed society to grow and achieve what it has achieved, and we would do well to protect this most vital of social functions from the cancer of feminism, with its cry of liberation and false equality for women, before it is too late and they do away with it for good.